First Descendants’ Hidden Thoughts

Alliah Delgado

Being the eldest, the struggle is real. They expect everything from you. How you socialize or getting good grades. They always say that first born children are the ones who are capable to continue what their parents started. And the most difficult part of being the eldest was having a sibling that acts like a mom to you.
They always see everything in you. Although, they do this with your sibling. Yours was different. You can’t hide to them –they can find you wherever you go. Everything of what you do they should always know. They update everything about you like you are having some underground business. They can easily know what you do or what you will do.
Your mom expect you to act matured enough than your age. Your father anticipate you to be good at everything. They order you to lead your sibling and teach them anything. They always tell you to have a long patience whenever your brother have tantrum and need some attention. You guide your sister when your mom was not around. You need to put them first before yourself because that what your parents told you so.
Your siblings that makes you wonder what you did to them to treat you that way. They always fight with you. Even the smallest things like sharing clothes. Usually they are last born children. The manipulative ones and attention seekers. When you are asking permission to your parents they always stop them to do so. They have this talent of “Sales talk” they can easily enchant you with their words. So being the first child that loved by the elders the last born child always try to get the attention of others. They have the traits of jealousy. And once you do something not right and surely distort your reputation they will find time to outdo you.

But with those negative things about being the first and eldest child, there will be always be a bright side. Like the trust they give to you –the trust of ordering your fellow sisters and brothers. They know that you can do well to them. They are assuring your siblings safety whenever they are away. Because they know that you can’t leave your younger siblings behind. The faith that you can conquer all the challenges of being the eldest, and unconditional love they always give to you.
Maybe, your siblings just wanted some attention from you. Studies show that younger brothers or sisters are the most loving ones. They do not hesitate to show their love to their family. Maybe because you’re the eldest and you have too much too handle that you did not realize they are just making some scene for you to recognize them. They are the “baby” of the family –in any age as long as they are the youngest. And once you show care to them, they will definitely return it more than what you give.
Although, the things above where also applicable to any order of the family. We should think that each member of the family has its responsibility. We should be making each day with our family the best day we ever have with them. We should not regret being with them because they are the most special gift had given to us.
Being the eldest, the struggle is real. But it’s not about what your place on your

family –its about what you can do and show your love to them.